Long Distance Relationship Recipe:
- Lots of love
- Dash of dedication
- heaping amount of loyalty
- 2 people in love
- no doubt
- a bunch of respect
So you’ve probably already decided you’re going to do long distance or thinking that it might happen. Let me tell you, IT SUCKS. Whichever way you put it; it’s horrible. (Period).
Let’s explore my knowledge of the subject, shall we? My boyfriend and I starting doing long distance last year. We met in Nashville but I ended up getting a job and moving to NYC. dun dun dun!! Over the months I’ve really felt the pain of being away from my partner; deep down to my five senses.
My Sight; or perceiving things through the eyes, it’s a complex process.
You’ll miss the very sight of them everyday. They turn from someone you see most days to someone you look at through a phone. From your favorite person to walk into your house to your favorite notification you see pop up.
It’s hard but something that helps is to plan trips!! Always have the next trip planned whenever you have to say goodbye. There’s always something to look forward too. Obviously travel to both places you live but, also plan trips to new places! This way you’ll get to see new things and create different experiences together.
The bad thing about not seeing them is that you’ll be jealous of everybody that does. Another key is too over explain your day. Since you can’t be there to see/meet anybody new that your partner sees on an everyday basis; it’s good to give as many details as you can so they still feel incorporated into your everyday life.
Hearing; The ear also contains several special structures that produce the body’s sense of equilibrium, or balance.
One tall tale is that people back, back in the day believed that laughter is the sunshine to your soul.
You’ll miss the sound of their laugh; whenever you hear a great joke. When they write a sarcastic text that you can hear in your head but just wish to hear it in person.
Something that helps is to; Plan out dates as you would if you were together! Have set days and times to sit down and have a proper “date” not just “catch up” phone calls. I love a good, good morning call or a call during a work break but it’s nice to show one another that you’re still willing to set out time just for them. Here are some of the most basic things you can do via technology:
- Watch a movie or TV show. Pick out a series that you both want to watch and watch it every week!
- Order dinner for each other and eat over facetime! It can be a surprise on what they get you and vice vera.
- Make the same dinner at the same time. It’s fun and you guys can compete and see who’s looks better!
- Read a book together and talk over phone about it.
Smell; The sense of smell is closely linked with memory, probably more so than any of our other senses.
A smell can instantly take you back to a memory. Just like when you walk past someone that has on their cologne and instantly remember all the times you guys were just hanging out and watching a movie.
Dumb advice but just know that distance makes the heart grow fonder, really it does. Just know that you finally found someone who your nose can stand, be thankful for their good hygiene because some people smell are are gross.
You’ll miss the way they cooked you dinner or you’ll be in a new restaurant, tasting something incredible and just wish they were there to taste it too.
Tip for this is to make lists of places you want to go together! Plan out dates for when you do see them and by then you can impress them with your new restaurant findings.
The one thing that I want after a long day is a hug from my boyfriend and possibly a foot massage.
You’ll long for their touch and miss the communication that can be delivered through the body.
The worst is when they’ve had a bad day and you just want to be there for them. The only good part is that you guys will be able to improve your communication skills with each other. You’ll be able to get to know their mind before their body, which will help in the long run but I know.. doesn’t make it any easier.
It’ll suck because with each day you’ll miss them but continue to fall harder and harder for them. But just know that one day you’ll be together and distance will just be a thing of the past!!
Don’t worry you’ll soon have them back into your arms!